on September 10th, 2015
​While working out this morning Beyoncé’s song “Irreplaceable” came on. I always think about my friend Tonia when it plays because this is the last song to which she and I danced. With our arms raised and index fingers pointed high in the air, we swayed back and forth on the side of the road at Smith’s Point Fish Fry in Freeport, Bahamas. “You must not know ‘bout me, you must not know ‘bout me,” w...  Read More
I Weep
on March 16th, 2014
Sometimes I weep. It used to be a source of shame for me until two words finally helped me conquer that self-condemnation. Jesus Wept. I weep because my best friend has to beat this cancer. There are a few things we’ve put on OUR Bucket List over the past twenty years that haven’t yet materialized. I am certain we are supposed to see Hillsong perform live in Australia before we’re too old to look ...  Read More
Letter of Apology
on December 14th, 2013
Dear Moms,Apologies sometimes don’t come easy for me so please forgive that it has taken me this long.I’m sorry for being that person who looked at you with the Eyes of Fire when I saw you sitting with your baby in the airport terminal, awaiting our flight. While chatting away on my mobile phone the pleasant, laughter-filled conversation was interjected with the bitter “Ugh, I hope that woman and ...  Read More
The Facebook Place
on August 20th, 2013
It is a place where people can add you to their lives as friends without really being your friend. The neighbor who rarely speaks to you can be vocal in your life by clicking the Like button- or not.  It is a mecca for those who have mastered the art of being passive-aggressive: their status updates filled with reprimand for The Person Who Shall Remain Unnamed.  Photos and posts are made Public so...  Read More
A Man's Character
on December 11th, 2012
“The true test of a man’s character is what he does when no one is watching.”~John Wooden, legendary basketball player and coachMy son’s vocabulary has increased dramatically in the past few months and he has begun to repeat much of what he hears me say. One of the phrases he’s picked up is “go, go, go, go, go.” The first time he said it, we were heading out the door on our way to school. I laughe...  Read More
First Thing's First
on September 10th, 2012
At the end of the day, first thing’s first. Before I begin working on the new assignment - deadline tomorrow, I read a bedtime story to my son. Tonight, his book of choice: Dinosaur Roar. Before I dissect the article - written two days ago, I lay my son in his bed and pull the blanket over his little legs. His blanket of choice: Cars, set against a blue backdrop. Before I attempt to fuse toge...  Read More
Last Night A DJ Saved My Life
on August 23rd, 2012
​“Last Night a DJ Saved My Life” was a hugely popular disco song released in 1983 by the group Indeep. Many years and many remakes later every time I hear it I still sing and dance along to the infectious tune. The music and its lively beat always held my attention more than the words themselves- but that flip-flopped last night.Because last night, a DJ saved my life from a broken heart.That DJ wa...  Read More
At the Lorraine.
on July 26th, 2012
In the end, he paid with his life so that my son's life could be better....  Read More
Mother Knows Best
on May 13th, 2012
“I don’t care what anyone says.  You are a writer.”           -my MomA mother will take all of your doubts, fears and insecurities and turn them into a force of inspiration.  She will tell you to stop saying “I can’t” because you can- you just need to start somewhere, anywhere.  If you call her and, through the tears, say you don’t believe in your talents anymore she will be more stern than comfor...  Read More
Trayvon Martin And The Need For Grace
on April 15th, 2012
​In the absence of grace mankind suffers. In the absence of extending kindness and favor to one another mankind suffers through acts rooted in fear of the unknown and judgment of the unfamiliar. On February 26th, 2012, mankind suffered. George Zimmerman shot and killed Trayvon Martin, an unarmed teenage boy. Mr. Zimmerman saw Trayvon, a person whom he did not know, walking through the gated commun...  Read More
on April 7th, 2012
Do not mistake necessary solitude for unnecessary loneliness....  Read More